Posted 4:07 p.m. Tuesday, July 31, 2018
Building soft skills starts with knowing how to make a first impression … in seconds.
Building soft skills starts with knowing how to make a first impression … in seconds
First impressions are a big deal. How big? Just ask UWL Alumna Tianna Vanderhei, ’15, who wowed the judges in Oshkosh Saturday, June 16, and took home the Miss Wisconsin title. With a confident posture, smile and strong eye contact, Vanderhei has the first impression nailed. It takes only six seconds for people to form an opinion of someone based on the sum of these and other visual clues, says Vanderhei. Various psychological studies run the gamut on time for first impressions — from a minute to the blink of an eye. Regardless of just how long it is, Vanderhei says it is what is done in this limited timeframe that counts. [caption id="attachment_8117" align="alignright" width="282"] The Miss America Organization raised the age limit from 24 to 25, which allowed 25-year-old Tianna Vanderhei to compete one more time for Miss Wisconsin. It was her sixth time competing, which demonstrates another “soft skill” she has acquired — perseverance. Photo courtesy of Magic Dreams Productions.[/caption] In her Miss Wisconsin vehicle, Vanderhei is traveling the state to share tips about making first impressions, as well as how to build other soft skills critical to a successful career and future. (See four of her big tips below). Her platform, “B.O.S.S. – Building Our Soft Skills, Strengthening Our Future” aims to help people learn to be the boss of their own future. It came out of her experiences searching for her future as a UWL student. Vanderhei decided she wanted to be an athletic trainer as a high school sophomore mainly because she liked playing sports and heard of the promising job market and pay. However, her expectations of the career field and her passions gradually shifted during college. By sophomore year, she was unhappy with her direction and began struggling with her coursework for the first time in her educational pursuits. At that time, she was placed on academic probation by the university. It was not because she was negligent; in fact, she was balancing a full credit load and multiple part-time jobs. She simply was not finding fulfillment in her sports medicine coursework, so she decided to follow her gut and trust her heart. “We are constantly asking kids, ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’ There is this pressure to define what they want to be … even before they know themselves,” she explains. Instead, Vanderhei says parents, teachers and others should open career conversations by asking, “What do you enjoy doing?” They should encourage job shadowing and other methods to understand what a potential career path looks like.Through careful reconsideration of her interests and motivations at UWL, Vanderhei found her more authentic interests and eventual major: Organizational and Professional Communication Studies and Sports Broadcasting. She continued on as a TV reporter and anchor after graduation. Through her various titles, including Miss La Crosse/Octoberfest in 2012, Vanderhei has spoken with students from Kindergarten through college about the value of exploring potential career paths — well beyond job title or pay — as well as the career skills they need to reach their dreams. Now as Miss Wisconsin, she continues those discussions, yet her focus has turned to building soft skills that employers and college admissions officials find so critical. [caption id="attachment_8120" align="alignright" width="300"] One of Tianna Vanderhei’s first stops as Miss Wisconsin was La Crosse Riverfest in July.[/caption] One of Vanderhei’s assets is her willingness to share her own struggles as part of that conversation. And initiatives she is embarking on this year will include holding discussions with working women in communities statewide to share experiences, struggles and learn from one another. “In the midst of the Me Too movement, women are empowered and this workshop will allow women like myself to learn from one another and fearlessly strive for our dreams,” she says, referring to her Running In Heels forums she hopes to take statewide. Vanderhei encourages people to never be afraid to change their major or career path in pursuit of passions. “You should never stop dreaming of what you want to be when you grow up,” she says. Vanderhei will represent Wisconsin in the Miss America competition Sept. 9 in Atlantic City, New Jersey.“You should never stop dreaming of what you want to be when you grow up.”